Mom-Shaming – WTF…

This post started because I was so disturbed by a post within a mom group that I saw. Let’s be very honest – those mom groups can be something else! And I’ll be even more honest & say that I am in alllll the mom groups *eeks!* There’s something about watching a train wreck that I love, I guess. I do have some mom groups that truly help me & are very inspiring (shout out to 2017 Triplets & my Glisters!), but I would say 85% of them are on my feed solely for the drama, what can I say?

Back to my story – so I’m scrolling through my feed & I see in one of the groups someone posted about her ending her breast feeding journey. I get it, I didn’t last but a few months – it’s hard! I was going to scroll through it, but curiosity got the best of me & BAM – the comments were like a bomb going off! So let me start with this, the poor mother was having a hard time with ending her BF’ing journey – as we all have at one point – & she was beating herself up about it. Many comments were endearing & empowering (cheers & claps!), but there were also many that were so horrifying I actually felt like crying for this mom. I don’t know where the term “breast is best” came from, but I’m pretty sure as long as you’re feeding your child you’re doing “best”. It amazed me how many people basically told her to put herself through hell – mentally & physically – to continue to BF her baby. ABSURD!

Moms who are thinking of ending their BF’ing journey – you are a GREAT mom! You tried one way, it isn’t working out (for whatever reason), so move on to another way. And thank goodness we have amazing technology & science to allow formula to be a phenomenal option! And this goes with anything! Don’t even get me started on the “should I stay at home or go back to work” craziness. From one stay-at-home-mom – this is ish is crazy and most days I feel trapped in my home and want to go to work – that doesn’t make me a bad mom, it makes me human.

Now to my biggest point of contention – WHY ARE WE SHAMING EACH OTHER? This mom-ing thing is hard – it doesn’t matter if you’re a SAHM, a working mom, a BF’ing mom, or a mom who doesn’t give her kids organic (*hand raised*)! I’ve never been so exhausted from being around tiny humans in my life! Day in & day out we give everything we have to our children & most days put our wants & needs last. And if you, as a Mom, are worried you’re not good enough or not doing everything perfect – you are doing it right, I promise you! The fact that you’re worried about it makes you a GREAT Mom. We argue with tiny humans (I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gotten into an argument with a 14 month old *eye roll*), we bite our tongues when our significant others’ come home & say they’re tired (*another eye roll*), all on top of keeping the house standing, somewhat clean, & the children fed & somewhat clean. SOOO – we should all be high-fiving each other – in the store when a tantrum is happening, in the public bathroom when we’re changing a crap diaper, & in the event that one mom needs to do something for her sanity that maybe another mom doesn’t fully understand – high-fives all around.  Because let’s all be real for a minute, none of us are perfect & when push comes to shove, we all do what’s in the best interest of of our children & our family (& yes, that includes us too because we keep this train moving).  *High-fives, hugs, & cheers to all the moms out there!*